This whole situation is so ridiculous. Im sorry Bob, but you really need to calm down. Hes trying to make things right and all you want to do is insult him constantly and tell him to fuck off. Why would he want to bend over backwards as make things right when youre being this worked up? He already knows he fucked up, thats obvious.
Legally all he has to do is refund you (which according to eBay on his side, that already happened), but he offered to still send you flares if you only messaged him... which you didnt do.
Calm down. Be the bigger man and accept the flares and then drop it. Jesus.